Lovemaking is an art that only gets better when the partners understand each other well. It can never be a wholesome experience if one of the participants do not enjoy it. It is therefore very important that one should know what the other person’s needs are. We got in touch with seven men who confessed what their lady love has taught them in bed, and here’s what they have to say:
Patience is the key
“I could hardly keep my pants on once I get excited. It was more like ‘Wham! Bam! Thank you, ma’am!’ for me. Being inexperienced, I thought that is how things are done and none of my girlfriends said anything. It was only after I got married that I learnt the importance of being patient from my wife. It was really awkward when we had sex for the first time after marriage. She later told me that I was doing everything in a hurry. “Treat sex like eating your favourite dish. Would you just gobble it up or enjoy it slowly?” she asked. Patience is the key”.
Ask what you want
“You will never know what the other person wants until and unless you ask them. You can make a guess (and countless ones!) or try different techniques and discover what your partner likes by accident or by mere co-incidence. But do you really want to spend so much time and energy? This was the best advice I got from one of my girlfriends: “Ask what I want!” And it became an interesting game. Every time we planned to have sex, I would ask her what she wants and she would always give me a different reply based on her mood and situation. Trust me, we had the best sex experience of our life.”
Call it ‘love-making’
“My girlfriend is a Piscean, and they are known for their high emotional quotient. She actually ‘makes love’ during sex. Her care, concern, gentle strokes, sweet kisses and cuddles post sex makes my day. In fact, she made me realise sex is so much more than just penetration, and there’s so much to do before and after the deed. I will never forget what she said: “I don’t want to have sex. I want to make love to you. So soft and tender that it will melt your heart.” And true to her words, she really melted my heart.”
Emotions are important…
“I had many one-night stands in my past, and thought I had a good sex life until I met my present girlfriend. She taught me the importance of emotions while having sex. We had sex for love, not lust. That took our pleasure to the next level, and made our sex life even more amazing. Having sex without emotions is equivalent to having a chocolate without cocoa.”
Female orgasm decoded
“While having sex, my partner’s orgasm mattered the most. I used to obsess excessively over whether she had an orgasm or not. One day, my girlfriend said that penetrative sex is not the only way that helps her climax. She also told me about nipple-only orgasm. All this time I had thought that women can orgasm only through penetrative sex! Following my girlfriend’s advice, I tried to go slow and started experimenting with our bodies. It was an wonderful experience”
“This is something I am not proud of. I used to think that pulling out your organ just before ejaculating is a safe practice. My wife laughed at me when I told her this. She got me into the habit of always using a condom during intercourse. She further told me that condoms with textures helped her orgasm and I was really surprised when I followed her instruction. She actually made me Google the importance of using protection during sex, and how we can have an enjoyable experience even while using a condom.”
“I learnt this quite late in my life. Foreplay can be as pleasurable as penetrative sex, or even better. It has its own charm, and can bring a couple closer. Cuddling, kissing and hugging are those sweet pleasures that cannot be replaced with anything. Further, it stimulates woman and helps in natural lubrication.”
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