How to say “NO” to your partner when you are not in a mood to have sex

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It is a legal offence to force a woman to have sex, even if that person happens to be her husband. But there is a whole lot of difference between what is being preached and what could actually be followed. Imagine, you have returned home late from work and you sense that your husband is in a mood for some naughty adventure. Do you say no (as our law dictates) and break the poor man’s heart, or just pretend you are also in a mood?

So, how would you tell him that you do not want to have sex (and without hurting his ego)? Well, we got you. Instead of going on a guilt trip or damping the spirits of your significant other, here’s all that you need to do.

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​Tell him in advance

Tell him in advance (via Glamour)

Instead of saying bluntly at the last moment, tell him about your mood as early as possible and unfold it gradually. It’s logical, isn’t it? Before he starts making sexual advances, planning his moves or simply gearing up for a steamy session, subtly drop him a hint that you are very, very tired. It would not make him feel sexually rejected or hurt his ego.

​Be honest

Rather than making futile excuses, be honest and tell him why you are not interested in having sex that night. Instead of coming up with a stern no, tell him slowly how your day was. Whether you had a bad day at office, fight with your best friend or you are tired, share your situation before giving a negative reply. Once he gets to know what prompted you to stop his advances, he will embrace you with open arms. Else, he might wonder what made you refuse his proposal, some may even feel angry or guilty if you don’t tell them the reason behind your refusal.

Be honest and tell him why you are not interested in having sex that night (via ThingLink)

​But do make plans

Since you have said no and spoiled his plan, tell him when you guys can do it next. “Darling, I am too tired today but what about doing it the very first thing tomorrow morning? Saying something on the similar lines would surely make up for everything and keep the excitement on. Make it clear that you love him and are excited to have sex with him, but the moment is not right. This make him feel good and he too will agree to your proposal.

​Don’t forget to appreciate

Appreciation at the right time matters the most and that includes your sex life too! Do appreciate the adjustments he has made for you, and thank him for that. It would lift-up his spirits, and make him feel appreciated. It’s a win-win situation for both!

Appreciation at the right time matters the most and that includes your sex life too (via Pinterest)

​Make it worth it

And when you guys finally hit the bed, put in some extra efforts and make it a memorable affair. Give him a warm hug or play his favourite music as you both snuggle in the bed. If he is a foodie, order something that he loves and don’t forget to light some candles to eat your dinner. Trust us, his heart will melt under the warmth of the candles.

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